Fathers are just fine without parity

May 31, 2018


Why are all those white vans slowly moving and then stopping at the houses in my hood?  As my early morning eyes began to focus I could read the bright colored van signs:


Sports equipment bouquets delivered door to door.

Tools bouquets house deliveries.

Clothing bouquets delivers from 7AM to 8 PM Mondays- Sundays.


I vigorously shook my head to make sure I was seeing what I had thought I was seeing.

Somehow the mornings USA TODAY paper appeared in my hands and I was reading the bolded 16 font, all caps, headline, “PRE-SCHOOL GRADUATIONS TODAY”. Then I barely noticed the extra small lettered sentence at the bottom, “Remember today is Father’s Day”.

I stumbled out of bed and turned on my computer to read the news. What I read astonished me. “Today all technology would be slower due to the high volume of messages, texts, tweets, and Facebook messages which will be going out and coming into all the fathers.”

It was at this point I started laughing since I just came out of a delightful and comfortable dream. Now sadly in my awaken state I was back into the reality world that Dad’s Day is just an offshoot holiday.

Yes, I had only been dreaming but unlike Wilbur (a town near Spokane) Washington’s 1899 citizen Sonora Smart Dodd’s “wish upon a star” her yearning did become a reality.

Ms. Dodd’s pushed her Father’s Day dream into main stream thinking when floods of both men and women became activist behind Sonora’s “I have a National Father’s Day dream”. Ms. Dodd’s drive somewhat ended 42 years later when on June 15, 1966 she received a partial victory

It was on that June day President Lyndon B. Johnson signed his Presidential Proclamation making every third Sunday of June the day to honor fathers.

Sonora’s full goal bloomed into reality six years later, when in 1972 President Richard Nixon turned LBJ’s proclamation into a mandatory national holiday.

It is the mothers along with fathers who set the examples on how their offspring’s can become a contributing member of their community and to their country. But fathers know their mentoring is based on the fact there is only one absolute on how to guide us into developing our children to become outstanding Americans. This absolute is that there are no absolutes and that is absolutely true.

With this absolute in mind here are some of the everyday standard roles of a father.


  • Fathers should install into their daughters and sons that they must stand up and be counted when they see actions which are against their values.


  • Fathers should teach speaking up doesn’t mean disrespecting. Rather it means one has to be willing to debate and by doing so this action shows respect for our country’s core values of individuality, integrity and loyalty.


  • Fathers are the family coaches who are constantly directing their children to set other goals long before they reach their target. This way the child is always motivated toward achievements.


  • Fathers are the family’s cheer section with the duty to re-enforce, “Yes. You will fail at times and yes life is not fair.  And most of the time no matter how hard you work you probably will not receive a trophy. Yet you still must go on with living and striving.”


  • Fathers are the teachers who try to ingrain there is a big difference between “I can’t do it!” and the choice of “I don’t want to do it?” Then it is the ones who choose the easiest “I can’t do it” who are often the ones who truly fail.


  • Fathers are the family’s standby person. He teaches if we use our defeats in the right way then we are on the right road to becoming successful later in life.


  • Fathers know about the division of labor. This means someone is the quarterback and others have the role to protect their quarterback so she can control the overall game plan. Knowing this, father’s support the concept that fathers and mothers will never have parity in status.


What are some other characteristics of a daddy?

A dad is a teacher, a giver, a worker, a guru, a follower, a leader, a stand back and wait to see type of a person and a protectorate.

Father’s do not need any of those deliver bouquets trucks stopping at our houses. But what makes us feel like a successful father is to have our children look us in the eye and with a big loving hug say, “Happy Dad’s Day! You are a great father and have taught me well.”

Darn right with that loving recognition we fathers are just doing fine without having parity between our Father’s Day and Mother’s Day.


Editor’s Note: The online paper version of The Beacon also contains Chuck Wright’s interviews with veterans on Memorial Day. https://millcreek.villagesoup.com/p/they-will-not-be-forgotten/1753081?cid=5226074

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